Dancing at Parties Dos and Don'ts

Bad Scenario
So you’re at this party. Your favorite song is on. You see a girl eyeing you. You figure you’ll give it a shot. You move towards her with a kissy face and she’s still staring directly at you. You get behind her and begin to “grind”. She doesn’t seem to be that into it but you figure that she’s just playing hard to get. In order to increase the intensity of the dance you begin to “grind” a bit harder. At this point she really doesn’t seem too interested. You scream in her ear if she wants to dance but she basically ignores you to talk to a hotter guy. To get her attention to tell her to dance you grab her ass… bad idea there, son. She slaps you and you are knocked out by the guy she was talking to; probably her boyfriend. You later find out that she was staring at you because of your purple tie-die button-down and your camouflage jumpsuit pants. If this has even remotely happened to you before you can consider yourself an EPICLY AWFUL dancer.

Analysis
Analysis of the previous situation reveals a TON of mistakes. The first correctable mistake being the attire you chose to attend the party in. Unless this party was a Halloween or Euro-Rave theme there is no place in society for tie-die and camo-jumpsuit pants. The second was the fact that you made a move on a girl who simply “eye-****ed” you. Make sure there is eye contact AND a smile during the eye lock. Another fault was the approach. No-one in their right mind wants to dance with a random that’s making a kissy face unless they’re really that desperate. If a girl isn’t interested in dancing before you both really get into it, move on there a plenty of other women at the party. Never dry-hump a girl’s leg in order to prove yourself as an “Alpha-male” and to make yourself seem like a good dancer. Never yell in a girl’s ear over the volume of the music because it’s just annoying and unwanted sound. Also you never want to “grab ass” to get attention a simple tap on the shoulder will suffice. Most importantly; MAKE SURE THE GIRL YOU WANT TO DANCE WITH IS SINGLE!!!

Correction of Mistakes and Faults
Clothes
OK, you’re attending a party. Sometimes shorts are acceptable on hotter days, but at Virginia Tech those hot days are rare, so I would most often recommend jeans. Wear nice clean sneakers. No one wants to have to clean up after you track muddy footprints all over their apartment. Shirts are the most broad and flexible clothing item that a guy can work with. Guy can go from wearing funny T-Shirts all the way to button-downs. Guy should just avoid clothes that would make them seem threatening. That category includes the following, shirts depicting death and violence, shirts depicting explicit sexual activities, trench coats, all-black, army boots and paraphernalia, and only underwear.

Telling if they’re interested
This is probably the toughest of all the steps in the “Getting a Girl to Dance” process because it is often the easiest step to find misleading signs in. The 2 most important signs are non-threatening eye contact and a welcoming smile. Usually these two signs are the most common and most reliable. However, a man should never feel bad if the girl he’s interested in points towards him to motion him over.

Approaching Your “Target”
When you are making a move towards the girl that you want to dance with always approach her with a warm welcoming smile. Don’t make any weird or inappropriate faces because she might see you as a douche looking to get some, instead of a person who’s simply looking to dance.

The Actual Dancing
Dancing is a very broad subject with many styles that define it. Most often dancing at parties and clubs is a style of grinding; where the man usual is behind his female dance partner usually creating friction “down there”. He can either hold her hands or hips while grinding away. Grinding mostly occurs during rap or hip-hop music scenes. Grinding can also be hard or soft pending on who’s dancing, but just make sure you’re on the same page or things might get awkward. There’s also rave dancing; where the men and women have the option of frolicking around to primarily euro-trance techno. Just make sure when you are raving not injure anyone in the process.

Dancing Etiquette
Make sure to be “bearable” while dancing. No one’s expecting you to be the perfect example of a morally stringent person while out on the dance floor, but they do expect you to be tolerable. Never yell in someone’s ear to get their attention or to tell them something that isn’t of dire importance. Also respect the person you’re dancing with. Groping and sexually harassing them is completely unacceptable. I would also recommend making sure the person you’re dancing with is single in order to prevent any dance floor drama from being stirred up.

Hopefully this simple how to will help you in your future endeavors and encounters with the opposite gender at parties where you are “looking to get your freak on out on the dance floor.”